There’s nothing like being a mom
Being a mom is hard, stressful, crazy, busy, demanding, difficult, and complicated. Being a mom is also beautiful, wonderful, fulfilling, rewarding, surprising, heartwarming, exciting, fun, and a blessing. Which sounds like the biggest contradiction known to man kind, but it’s the absolute truth. Whether you are a working mom, a stay at home mom, work from home mom, a toddler mom, a teen mom, a mom of young kids, a mom of older kids, a step mom, a mom of many, a mom of few, a mom of one, a boy mom, a girl mom, a spiritual mom, a young mom, a new mom, a seasoned mom, however your motherhood is packaged, you have the most layered and complex job on the planet. There is absolutely nothing like being a mother, and that includes both the good and the bad(and there’s plenty of both)!
It doesn’t matter if you asked for, planned out, or even begged, for this or not, when it happens, you get to understand the reality and struggles firsthand
Whether you’ve always wanted to be a mom, or it happened unplanned, or you planned every second of every moment on your journey to becoming a mom, it is a hard transition and a highly demanding role. Yes your children are a blessing, but this motherhood thing is real and can be a bit much sometimes. It doesn’t matter if you asked for, planned, or even begged, for this or not. When it happens, you get to understand the reality and struggles firsthand. So you wanting kids doesn’t make the hard parts any easier, and it certainly doesn’t make you a bad person or mom for having hard moments and struggling through the challenging parts even though it may have been something you wished for. You can most definitely love your children fully without loving every single moment of motherhood. May you develop much grit, resiliency, creativity, and flexibility in this journey because so much of that is required!
Every phase of child rearing is different and so is every experience
The 0-3 phase is especially hard and not for the faint hearted. But those teenage years also have special and different kinds of challenges in store that require tough skin, so you must be strapped in at all times! Each phase of motherhood is different and has its own pros and cons. Every phase looks different for every Mom and child and some may be harder for some moms than others. Some people have a terribly horrific or difficult pregnancy, but have the best baby. Some people have an excellent and extremely easy pregnancy and have a very difficult baby. Others may have a smooth pregnancy and newborn phase, but then have the most difficult time during the toddler years. You could end up with the calmest toddler on the planet and have the wildest teenager you ever met! As an adult child I know that having adult children is a different kind of pain in the side also! Every phase of child rearing and parenting is different and so is every experience! The key is to stay hopeful, do your best, learn as much as you can, and remember to take care of yourself, so that you can show up consistently and be the best mom that you can be however that may look for you and your family.
For The Single Moms of 2 Under 2
I must absolutely give the biggest shout out to all of my fellow single mothers of 2 children under the age of 2. Whether you are doing it now or had to do it before or are preparing to have to do it, shout out to you!This is by far the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do and it is a wild beast that just cannot be tamed, but perhaps it can be learned. Children are a blessing, there is no doubt about that, but going at the early years alone is so very difficult. So keep your head up single moms of 2 under 2!
Sometimes I feel beat down like the wheels on the bus going all through the town, and other times I feel like the absolute best mom in the world
I’m a new mom, a girl mom, a single mom, and a mom of 2 under 2. Daughters are currently 6 months and 18 months. Some days are most definitely harder than others, but we all make it through! I’ve learned so much and I’m continuously learning everyday. Sometimes I feel beat down like the wheels on the bus going all through the town, and other times I feel like the absolute best mom in the world. It all depends on what kind of day it’s been. The days are long and the nights are way too short. Being a mother is a 24/7 job that has no breaks, even when there are breaks, and it’s the most demanding position I have ever been in! I definitely have a new found respect, admiration, and appreciation for my own mother now that I’ve become a mother.
My duties, responsibilities, and obligations as a mother will never be done as long as I live, but my babies won’t be babies forever and I am looking forward to that
I know that as my girls grow and develop and get older, they will become more independent and will need me in different ways than they do now. This demanding minute to minute constant non-stop busyness is temporary and will be over soon enough. However for now, I spend most of my days just trying to stay above water and keep everyone alive, changed, entertained, and fed. There is hope in the light at the end of the tunnel, and though it may seem distant right now, I will get there one day. My duties, responsibilities, and obligations as a mother will never be done as long as I live, but my babies won’t be babies forever and I am looking forward to that. That doesn’t mean I’m not still relishing in the good stuff and finding joy and pleasure in the small moments and milestones that we will never get back once we’re past this season. So there are definitely advantages and disadvantages of motherhood, but staying positive and grateful is the key. After all, our children will never be the age that they are right now ever again, and neither will we. Enjoy the ride while it lasts, and continue doing the best way that you can and showing up how you can, and remember that you are enough just the way that you are!
